Xhumana nomhlaba: izincwadi ezihamba phambili zamakhono okuxhumana nabantu
Nakuba kungekho ukuvumelana phakathi komphakathi wesayensi yezenhlalo, kungase kushiwo ukuthi amakhono omphakathi—abuye abizwe ngokuthi amakhono okusebenzelana nabanye—ayisethi yamazinga afundwa ngokwemvelo noma afundiswayo, abonakaliswa ezindaweni ezimisiwe nezamukelekayo emphakathini, futhi aqondiswe ekutholeni ukuqiniswa kwengqikithi.
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi amakhono omphakathi axhumene ngqo "namakhono athambile", ukuba kubalulekile ukusungula izixhumanisi zekhwalithi nezinhlobo ezahlukene zabantu kanye nokufeza izinhloso. Ukuze uqonde kangcono lo mqondo, sikhethe uhlu olufushane lwezincwadi ezinhle kakhulu ezake zabhalwa mayelana namakhono okuxhumana nabantu.
Izincwadi ezinhle kakhulu zamakhono omphakathi
Umhlaba osezandleni zakho: akuwona umlingo, ubuhlakani bezenhlalo (2015), ngu-Elsa Punset
Encwadini yakhe, umbhali uhlola amandla obuhlakani bezenhlalo njengethuluzi elibalulekile lokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano, ukuthonya indawo yethu, kanye nokufeza izinhloso zethu zomuntu siqu nezomsebenzi. Ngezibonelo zansuku zonke, izifundo zesayensi namasu, Umbhali ubonisa indlela yokuqonda nokulawula imizwa, ukuthuthukisa uzwela futhi usebenzise ukuxhumana ngempumelelo ukuxhumana nabanye.
Kunokuba kube umlingo, ikhono lokuthonya umhlaba nokwenza ushintsho oluhle lifinyeleleka kuwo wonke umuntu. Ngenxa yendlela yayo efinyelelekayo nejabulisayo, Le ncwadi inikeza iseluleko sokwenza izinqumo ezihlakaniphile, sibhekane nezingxabano futhi sithuthukise amakhono ethu okuxhumana nabantu, okukhombisa ukuthi ulwazi lomzwelo luyinzuzo enamandla kunoma iyiphi indawo yempilo.
Izingcaphuno zika-Elsa Punset
- "Lalela umuzwa wakho futhi uthuthukise ubuhlakani bakho: dweba izinhlelo zalokho ofuna ukukufeza, beka imigomo ecacile, uqonde futhi wamukele ubunzima."
- "Imizwa iwumphumela wendlela esibhekana ngayo, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, ukusebenzisana phakathi kwezwe lethu langaphakathi nomhlaba wangaphandle."
Inganekwane ye-Charisma: Ukuthi Noma Umuntu Angakwazi Kanjani Ubuciko Bokuzibuthe Bomuntu (2012), ngu-Olivia Fox Cabane
Umbhali uchitha umqondo wokuthi i-charisma iyisipho esizalwa nayo futhi ubonisa ukuthi, empeleni, ikhono noma ubani angalithuthukisa. Ukwenza kanjalo, isebenzisa izifundo zesayensi nezibonelo zomlando. Fox Cabane ihlaziya izingxenye ezibalulekile ze-charisma—ukuba khona, amandla, nokufudumala—nokuthi lokhu kuyishintsha kanjani indlela abanye abasibheka ngayo.
Le ncwadi inikezela ngamathuluzi aphathekayo okuthuthukisa ukuzethemba, ukwenza isithombe esikhangayo, nokwakha ukuxhumana okujulile nabanye. Kusuka abaholi bamabhizinisi ngisho nezikhulu zomphakathi, Inganekwane ye-charisma iveza amasu okuthuthukisa uzibuthe womuntu siqu futhi uthole impumelelo kunoma iyiphi indawo yempilo.
Olivia Fox Cabane Quotes
- "I-Charisma ayiyona nje ikhwalithi yokuzalwa, kodwa ingatshalwa futhi ithuthukiswe ngokwenza kanye nokuqwashisa."
- "Ulimi lomzimba lukhuluma kakhulu kunamagama, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi sifunde ukululawula futhi silusebenzise ukuze sizuze."
Imibono enamathelayo: kungani eminye imibono isinda futhi eminye ifa (2024), nguChip Heath
Kungani eminye imibono ingalibaleki kuyilapho eminye iphela ngokushesha? Ku Imibono inamathele, abafowethu uChip noDan Heath hlaziya izimiso ezingemuva kwemiyalezo ephumelela kakhulu nekhumbulekayo. Besebenzisa izifundo zezehlakalo, ucwaningo lwesayensi, nama-anecdotes, bethula okhiye ababalulekile abayisithupha bokwenza umqondo "unamathele": ubulula, ukumangala, ukuphathekayo, ukwethembeka, imizwa, nokuxoxa indaba.
Ngesitayela esicacile nesisebenzayo, le ncwadi iwumhlahlandlela wabaxhumanisi, osomabhizinisi, othisha, nanoma ubani ofuna ukudlulisa imibono ngendlela ekholisayo nehlala njalo. Kusukela emikhankasweni yokukhangisa kuya enkulumweni ekhuthazayo, Imibono inamathele lembula izimfihlo zokudonsa ukunaka nokushiya uphawu olungacimekiyo ezingqondweni zabanye.
Izingcaphuno ze-Chip Heath
- «Igebe phakathi kokuba nombono nokwenza okuthile yisizathu sokuthi imibono eminingi ingaphumeleli. Okubalulekile wukuhlela izenzo zethu futhi sisuse imigoqo.
- "Ukusebenza kwengqondo yomuntu kuklanyelwe ukuvimbela ushintsho, ngakho-ke kufanele sithole izindlela zokudala zokunqoba lezi zithiyo futhi sifinyelele ushintsho olufunayo."
Amandla ama-introverts (2024), nguSusan Cain
Emhlabeni owazisa i-extroversion nobudlelwane obuqhubekayo, abangenisi bavame ukuzizwa besesimweni esingesihle. Ku Amandla ama-introverts, uSusan Kayini inselele kulo mbono futhi ikhombisa ukuthi ukuzihlola, ukuzwela kanye nekhono lokugxilisa ingqondo ngokujulile kungaba amandla amakhulu. Ngezibonelo zezibalo ezinjengoRosa Parks noSteve Wozniak, umbhali uhlola ukuthi ama-introverts awuguqule kanjani umhlaba.
Izinto ezisetshenziswayo azinikezi nje kuphela umbono omusha ngobuntu, kodwa futhi zinikeza amasu okuthi izingeniso ziphumelele emsebenzini, esikoleni, nangokwenhlalo ngaphandle kokuziphoqa ukuba zibe isikhunta esicashile. Okumele kufundwe kulabo abafuna ukuqonda kangcono nokwazisa imvelo yabo noma eyalabo ababazungezile..
Izilinganiso zikaSusan Cain
- "Ngicabanga futhi ukuthi introversion ingamandla ami amakhulu. Nginokuphila kwangaphakathi okuqinile kangangokuthi angikaze ngibe nesithukuthezi futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngizizwa nginesizungu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izinxushunxushu ezenzeka eduze kwami, ngiyazi ukuthi ngingakwazi ukuzindla ngaso sonke isikhathi.
- Noma esikoleni ungase ukhuthazwe ukuba uphume egobolondweni lakho, leyo nkulumo elimazayo ehlulekayo ukuqonda ukuthi ezinye izilwane ngokwemvelo ziphethe indawo yokukhosela nomaphi lapho ziya khona, nokuthi abanye abantu bayafana."
Indlela Yokunqoba Abangane Nokuthonya Abantu (2023), nguDale Carnegie
Umsebenzi wakudala onikeza amaqhinga okuthuthukisa amakhono omphakathi kanye nokwakha ubudlelwano obunenjongo. Le ncwadi igxile ezimisweni eziyisisekelo, njengokugwema ukugxekwa, bonisa ukwazisa okuqotho futhi uvuse isifiso esijulile kwabanye. Lezi zimfundiso ezingaphelelwa yisikhathi ziguqule izimpilo futhi ziyaqhubeka nokusebenza, zikhuthaza izigidi emhlabeni wonke ukuthi zithuthukise ubudlelwano bazo bomuntu siqu nobuchwephesha.
Izingcaphuno zikaDale Carnegie
- "Zikhathaze wena ngaphambi kwesithunzi sakho, ngoba umuntu wakho yilokho oyikho, kanti idumela lakho yilokho abanye abacabanga ukuthi uyikho."
- «Ukwesaba kuwumphumela wokuntula ukuzethemba. Ukungazethembi kuwumphumela wokungazi ukuthi yini ongayenza. Ukungazi ukuthi yini ongayenza kubangelwa ukuntula isipiliyoni. Ukuntula ulwazi kubangelwa ukuntula ukwenza okuthile okusha.
Ulimi lomzimba: indlela yokuhumusha abanye ngokuthinta komzimba wabo (2010), ngu-Allan noBarbara Pease
U-Allan no-Barbara Pease bahlola umthelela wokuxhumana ngaphandle kwezwi nokuthi ukuthinta kwethu, indlela esikhuluma ngayo, nendlela esima ngayo kungaveza ngayo imicabango nemizwelo efihliwe. Ngokusekelwe ocwaningweni lwesayensi nezibonelo zansuku zonke, le ncwadi Ikufundisa ukukhomba izimpawu zomzimba ezibalulekile, ukucacisa inhloso yangempela yamagama, futhi uthuthukise ikhono lakho lokuthonya abanye..
Isondele ngendlela yokuzijabulisa, ababhali hlaziya incazelo yokunyakaza njengokubheka isiqondiso, ukuma kwezandla noma ukuthambekela komzimba, okuhlinzeka ngamathuluzi awusizo endaweni yomuntu siqu neyochwepheshe.
Izingcaphuno zika-Allan Pease
- “Sihlukile ngoba ubuchopho bethu buxhumeke ngendlela ehlukile. Lokhu kusiholela ekuboneni umhlaba ngezindlela ezahlukene futhi sibe namagugu ahlukene nezinto eziza kuqala. Asingcono futhi asibi kakhulu, asifani.
- « Indoda yangempela ayisoze yakhala emphakathini ngaphandle kokuthi ibukele ifilimu lapho inja eyiqhawe ifa ukuze isindise inkosi yayo. Noma uma u-Heidi Klum eqaqa izinkinobho zebhulawuzi lakhe. Noma uma wehlise ngephutha ikesi eligcwele ubhiya.
Amandla okuba khona: ukuzethemba, ukuphepha, amandla omuntu siqu. Sebenzisa ulimi lomzimba ukubhekana nezimo ezinzima kakhulu (2016), ngu-Amy Cuddy
Singakuveza kanjani ukuzethemba nokuphepha ngisho nasezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu? Ku Amandla okuba khonaNgo , Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Amy Cuddy uhlola ukuthi ulimi lomzimba luyithonya kanjani ingqondo yethu nendlela abanye abasibona ngayo. Esebenzisa ucwaningo nenkulumo yakhe edumile ye-TED ethi "power poses," UCuddy ubonisa ukuthi izinguquko ezincane zesimo sengqondo nokuziphatha zingakhuphula ukuzethemba kwethu..
Umbhali uxoxa nangendlela yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi akusize ubhekane nezimo eziyingozi ngokuzethemba. Ngezibonelo ezikhuthazayo, le ncwadi iyafundisa singathuthukisa kanjani ukuba khona kweqiniso okuqinisa amandla ethu siqu, ngaphandle kokuthi sizenze umuntu esingeyena.
Amy Cuddy Quotes
- «Ukulungiselela ngokusobala kubalulekile, kodwa kufika isikhathi lapho kufanele uyeke ukulungiselela okuqukethwe futhi uqale ukulungiselela ingqondo. Kumele usuke kulokho ozokusho uye ukuthi uzokusho kanjani.
- "Umuntu ozethembayo ngempela akakudingi ukuzikhukhumeza, okungeyona into engaphezu kwesibuko ukuze afihle ukungavikeleki kwakhe."
Ungawathuthukisa kanjani amakhono akho okuxhumana nabantu (2005), ngu-Elia Roca Villanueva
Umbhali unikeza umhlahlandlela osebenzayo wokuthuthukisa ukuxhumana okusebenzayo, ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu, kanye nokuthola ukuzethemba ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene zokuxhumana. Indlela yakhe yokwenza Isekelwe ezincazelweni ezilula kanye nokwenza izivivinyo sonke esingazisebenzisa.. Le ncwadi ikhuluma ngezihloko ezinjengokugomela, uzwela, ukulawula ukungqubuzana, nokuveza imizwa.
Kugxilwe ku-psychology kanye nolwazi lomtholampilo, Umbhali unikeza izinsiza eziwusizo kulabo abafisa ukunqoba amahloni, baqinise ubuhlobo babo bomuntu siqu futhi bathuthukise ukuzethemba okukhulu ekuphileni kwezenhlalo nezomsebenzi.
